life... the same and yet not

i guess the holidays that followed soon after feb the 5th was good. my darling has been staying with me for quite sometime, so marriage life ain't that much of a difference, which sucks i think. it is such a significant event, a big step in a lifetime of partnership, i do not want to be thrown into the mundane so soon. CNY was good, busy but good, meeting friends and majority of our relatives. taking a break from work, be thrown out of routine a little. valentines coming up on monday, sigh, it is back to work again..... damn i wish i could skip that, but that is so not gonna to happen. just hope that i can spend some quality time with my precious. you know how the daily grind can just wear you down, a little extra, a little something special can go a long way. soon following would be my sweetie's birthday! for all of you who has been following her blog, please do show up, she would love to have everyone there.

married, but only legally

huh? i can hear some say, but thats what in means in my family. until the day when the customary tea-ceremony has been held would my "legally recognized" wife be considered part of my family. ridiculous isn't it? does that mean that if i never go through the traditional marriage ceremonies, i can carry on receiving red packets? hmm, maybe that ain't a bad trade-off after all. so although she is legally my wife, my family members still addresses her as my girlfriend. this clash of society progress and traditions put us in a fairly strange position, like sitting on the fence. strange, i must say.

the big day

we hadn't had much, it was a simple event, but it was special nonetheless. no major fuck ups, couple of lates and no-shows, oh and a couple of unexpected-shows. shelly was looking superb... if you would excuse me just let me ponder for a second and wonder "how did i land myself such a beautiful wife?"...........................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................ok fine, i admit it, i have no idea. did i say she was beautiful? damm i love this woman. the solemnization was a simple enough affair, nothing extravagant, which brings to home the point, stripped of all the bangs and whistles, love can be really simple. perhaps we all can learn to be less selfish, less demanding, more patient, more loving.
there was lots of fun, love laughter, and alcohol. i think i got pretty drunk, guess my alcoholic days are way over.... seems like a process of domestication haha. she did, i guess, tamed me. wild horse met his match, the horse whisperer beckons and its back to the stables.
i am thankful for all who showed up, friends and relatives, all that really mattered. it is important to me that they be around, to witness this very very significant event of my life. i love her, and i never imagined i would be able to love in this manner. dad, mum, sis and aunt, thank you all for being there, loving me, caring for me all through my life. friends of old...ben and isaac, thank you all for your unwavering friendship through the years. kay lin, for your wisdom and prayers. to all of shelly's friends, thanks for showing up. you guys have no idea how important your presence is to her. and to my wife, for without you none of it would have been possible. i love you