married, but only legally

huh? i can hear some say, but thats what in means in my family. until the day when the customary tea-ceremony has been held would my "legally recognized" wife be considered part of my family. ridiculous isn't it? does that mean that if i never go through the traditional marriage ceremonies, i can carry on receiving red packets? hmm, maybe that ain't a bad trade-off after all. so although she is legally my wife, my family members still addresses her as my girlfriend. this clash of society progress and traditions put us in a fairly strange position, like sitting on the fence. strange, i must say.